生:您刚才提到柔和的慈悲,您可否谈一谈不柔和的慈悲,或者说严厉的慈悲。我曾听闻“想掌握空手道的人必须真正地理解慈悲”,我不太理解这句话的意思。

S:You mentionedgentle compassion. I’d like to know if you could talk a little bit about anot-so-gentle compassion, or harsh compassion. For instance, I’ve heard that tomaster karate one must really understand compassion, and I don’t fullyunderstand that.

师:问题在于不要为了仁慈而仁慈。你看,这一切都来自于概念化思维。当我们谈论慈悲,我们就谈到仁慈。但慈悲和仁慈并没有太大关系;慈悲是以充满创意的方式让他人觉醒。真正的慈悲是适宜的沟通,而不是单纯的慷慨和仁慈。所以,一旦你发现一个人开始对他人的仁慈上瘾,你就应当停止,你要把他们敲醒。

V:It’s a questionof not being kind purely for the sake of being kind. You see, that whole ideacomes from conceptualization. When we talk about compassion we talk in terms ofbeing kind. But compassion is not so much being kind; It is being creative towake a person up. It is communicating properly rather than just purely beingcharitable and kind. So if you see that kindness is beginning to becomeaddictive to the person, then you stop being kind. You strike them to wake themup.

刚开始的几秒钟感觉会很糟糕——也许头几天都是如此。慈悲可以表现为仁慈,但同时,愚蠢的慈悲也许会满足你自己的欲求,或一味地按照对方希求的方式给予帮助。这恐怕行不通。举例说,假如你连续给一个人提供镇静药,结果这个人却特别执着于得到药片,而不再单纯地用药片治疗疾病。被帮助人的人会因此而上瘾。这时需要做出决定,不再继续满足他的嗜好。你真的必须勇敢,敢于为他人制造一些混乱、困扰和不安,切断他们的“镇静药”源。如果我们是被帮助的对象,那感觉可能糟透了;我们会认为那个人对我们实在太残忍。但我们一定很快就会明白事情的真相。

It could be a ghastly experience for a few seconds—for a few days, forthat matter. You see, compassion could be kind. But at the same time, “idiot”compassion could be fulfilling what you want or trying to help a person inwhatever way that person wants to be helped. This could go too far. Forinstance, if you continuously give sedative tablets to a person, in the endthat person could be hooked on them rather than just purely using them to curethe pain. A person could get hooked on it. So then there’s the decision of notcontinuing, not going on with that feeding of the person’s weakness anymore.You really have to be brave to create chaos, disturbances, or upset as far asthe other person is concerned, to stop feeding them such sedatives. And if weare the object of this, it could be a ghastly experience; we could regard thatperson as really being cruel to us. But sooner or later we will discover it, of course.

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